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Who You Spend Time With Will Determine Your Future

Since we were kids our parents warned us about hanging out with the wrong people, and as adults, we look back and realize they were exactly right. The truth is, the people you run with are the people who will inspire, educate, and motivate you – or ruin your life. In short, they have a very big impact on your future. I was watching one of my “guilty pleasure” TV programs the other day: The A&E Network show “Intervention.”

It’s a program about people struggling with alcohol and drug addiction and eventual interventions with professional counselors. It hit me how many of the episodes reveal that at some point, they started in the wrong direction because of people they were spending time with. Over and over in the series you’ll hear that they were doing great – all-star athletes, scholars, creatives – but then they met _________.  And after that, everything went south.

In the same way, during news reports after a young person commits a horrible crime – robbery, arson, or murder – when the parents are interviewed they almost always say, “He was a great kid, but at some point he fell in with the wrong crowd.”

Now, think about it in terms of your career or calling. Who do you spend the most time with? Do they inspire you to accomplish more? Explore your spiritual and creative side? Push your limits? Encourage you to not give up? Support your ideas?

Give it some serious thought, because if not, this might be the moment to start spending more time with different friends….

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  1. Good thoughts, Phil. While some negative influences are the obvious ones your discussed (bad influences, “wrong crowd”, drugs, alcohol, etc.), I think one negative influence people don’t think about are the “good influences”… people who encourage us to do “good” things, but not “God things”; allowing ourselves to get derailed from our real gifts and calling for the sake of getting bogged down in doing good things we may have a talent or ability for, but not a calling to.

    1. Could not agree with you more Dana. Great perspective. Very often we listen to what other people think are God’s calling on our life, but we have to be strong and listen to that voice ourselves. One of the biggest obstacles to GREAT ideas are GOOD ideas… 🙂

  2. This is a great post. Yes, Dana, in our quest to do the “good things” not the”God things” will cause us to lose focus on our calling, and this is the trick of the enemy. If he can’t stop us, he will drift us from our original vision.
    I have learned something here, ” The good things and the God things.”
    Thank you so much Phil for the post, it is a confirmation of my experience this month with one of my Facebook Filipino friends, wanting me to join their network, which I turned down, that I can’t leave my evangelistic calling to be selling products in order to make money. He told me that he was in a ministry as well, he is making money to help poor people in his country. Another Filipino friend, a lady forwarded a video to me showing a Nigerian Pastor who joined the network, selling the company’s and was making money.
    That is “Good Thing” but not God Thing.” The fact that everybody is doing it, doesn’t mean that I should do it. I must hear from God first.
    I am so happy for you and God bless.

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