There’s a very odd habit that most younger people – particularly women in my experience – have that really damages their ability to communicate. It’s the curious habit of making every statement a question. In other words, they make their voice rise at the end of every phrase. As a result, everything they say sounds like a question. Are you understanding what I’m saying? Here’s why it’s so damaging:
1. It makes you look very unsure of yourself and what you want.
2. It undermines your confidence.
3. It confuses the listener. (Is she making a statement, or asking a question?)
4. It just sounds really weird.
Similar to other speech quirks such as adding “like” to every sentence, I have no idea how it started. But there’s no question that if your goal is to have your influence felt, make a point, or get your voice heard, you should start eliminating this today.
When you make a statement, be clear that it’s a statement, and not a question.
Anyone else notice this one?