It’s always interesting to look back at our good intentions from the start of the year and see if anything stuck. Last year I wrote a post remembering that every year we make new resolutions, and every year we fail. We just can’t seem to stay committed, enthusiastic, or determined enough to keep our good intentions. But the word “resolution” is simply another way to express the desire for change. And when you discover the secrets to real change, your resolutions will start to stick.
Yesterday, I was interviewed on Salem Radio’s KKLA here in Los Angeles on the “Frank Pastore Show.” I discussed a few tips from back then that might help you as you start formulating resolutions for 2010:
1. There Can Be No Other Choice. Most new year’s resolutions fail because the stakes aren’t high enough. When it’s not important, we don’t take our resolutions seriously. What do you need to change that’s really “life or death” for you? An extra ten pounds might not be much to most people, but for a model, actress, or athlete, it could kill a career. Don’t make a resolution unless it’s really critical.
2. Change What Matters. Take control of your priorities, and you’ll take control of your life. We often fail because we don’t take the time to decide what’s really important. A promotion has little value if it comes at the expense of your family. Stop spending so much time on what other people think is urgent, and spend more time on what really matters.
3. Eliminate Destructive Distractions. Release the negative baggage from your life. Stop re-living your last failure and start focusing on the future. The divorce, firing, bankruptcy, or other disaster in your past does not determine your future. As long as you dwell in the past, you’ll never discover your destiny.
4. Finally, Build a Motivation Machine. Discover the difference cheerleaders can make. Long ago, athletes discovered the power of a cheering section. As you work through the most challenging aspects of personal change, you need people who believe and will encourage you. Stop discussing your problems with people who can’t help you fix those problems. Get rid of the negative people in your life, and surround yourself with people who are convinced of your possibilities!