I wrote a post some time ago expressing my opinion that the old adage “Money follows ministry” is a myth. You can read the post for the details, but it comes from a very common misconception – that somehow people can read our mind. In business or our personal lives we often just assume the people around us somehow mysteriously know what we’re thinking and what we want – and we get frustrated when they don’t.
A woman was walking home with her groceries and she started to struggle with the load. As she walked, a teenage boy watched her without moving. She started to get mad that he wasn’t assisting, and in her frustration, she finally dropped a bag of groceries. With a stern look on her face, she sarcastically asked him, “Hey, can you help me?” The boy happily replied, “I thought you’d never ask,” and jumped to her aid.
We’d all love to think everyone knows what we want.In marriage, we’d even like to think “If he really loved me, he’d know what I need and do it without me asking.”It’s a nice sentiment, but most of the time, it simply isn’t true.
When you stop and think about it, it’s actually a little arrogant to think that the world revolves around us. When someone can’t read your mind, it doesn’t make them a bad person – it just makes them human. The truth is, they’d love to help, they just need to know what you want.
Let’s stop feeling sorry for ourselves and learn to articulate our needs and desires. Let’s all stop assuming, and learn to ask people in a nice way.
You’ll be amazed at how much more you’ll get done, and happier you’ll be as a result.