The biggest challenge in our marriage? I’m fast and Kathleen’s not. Am I A.D.D.? Not sure, but at the very least, I’m the most easily distracted person I know. On the flip side, I do everything pretty quickly. Plus, I multi-task easily. I’m reading 3 or 4 books at a time, scan the TV channels constantly, and have a stack of magazines next to my desk – which is pretty cluttered of course. I’m not interested in long conversations – just give me the facts ma’am. Cut to the chase. Make it quick. I make decisions – well, fast.
But Kathleen on the other hand is a processor. She takes her time. She savors stuff. She can nurse a glass of wine all evening. She gets mad at me for pushing. While she’s still getting ready, I’m waiting in the car ready to go. (And not happy about it).
But there’s no question that while I accomplish a lot and get stuff done, I also miss a lot along the way. I don’t savor the moment because I’m getting ready for what’s next. I worry sometimes that I’ll get to the end of my life and not actually lived a life in between. Kathleen on the other hand knows how to experience life.
There’s something to be said for speed and efficiency.
But there may be more to be said for taking your time.
Which are you, and how does it impact your life?