I’ve always been a people pleaser, which on far too many occasions has been a disaster when I’ve had to make tough decisions. In fact, many times in a film or TV studio, I’ve called a “wrap” when I knew I didn’t have what I wanted on film – but I was uncomfortable pushing people to the next level.
Don’t make the mistake I did, by waiting too long in my career to draw the line. Now is the time to make the decision on which direction you want to move – be a people pleaser or be effective?
Being “effective” means being able to make the tough decisions, push people to their limits and get the job done, even when you need to step on a few toes. It doesn’t mean being a jerk, but it does mean setting a standard and letting everyone on your team know that you’re going to achieve it.
On the other hand, if you choose to be liked, you’ll spend the rest of your career bouncing around everyone’s different expectations, and worrying that you’ve hurt someone’s feelings.
Be gracious, but be effective.
Has anyone else experienced the frustration of being a people pleaser?