You Create Support By Being Positive, Not Negative
In my twenties I was working for a production company that created prime time TV specials. You find out pretty quick with network television that deadlines matter. You simply don’t miss them or you’re out of a job. As a result, I spent a lot of time back then pulling all-nighters, editing shows that had to get out. I thought I’d get some sympathy from my wife (then my girlfriend) and my other friends by droning on and on about being up all night, not getting any sleep, and how tired I was. Guess what?
They couldn’t have cared less. After all, they might not have worked all night, but they had their own problems. They didn’t have time to listen to me whine. That was a great lesson to learn in my early twenties. Work hard. Give it your best. Do great work.
But shut up about it. Because nobody cares.
Here’s a secret: You want attention? Be positive. Have fun. Folks want to spend time with people who make them feel good, help them laugh, and are encouraging. They will always gravitate toward the person who inspires them, not who depresses them.
Ask yourself – do you want to hang with that sourpuss who’s always complaining and trying to get sympathy? Or do you want to spend time with people who are a joy to be around?
Now – go be that person.
Phil Cooke, PhD. has been called “one of the most innovative communicators of our generation.” As a media producer, writer, speaker, and consultant, his client list includes major film studios and TV networks as well as major Christian organizations like Voice of the Martyrs, The Museum of the Bible, The Salvation Army, and others. He’s also coached and consulted with many of the most influential churches and nonprofit organizations in the world, helping them use media to tell their story. You can hear his podcast here.
