The Secrets of Confronting Without Offending

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At some point, all leaders will be required to confront someone on their team. It may be about performance, personal behavior, mismanagement, or a host of other possibilities, but confrontation is critical – and inevitable – in all organizations. However, as Deborah Smith Pegues points out in her excellent book “Confronting Without Offending,” the key is to use confrontation to make better employees, not drive them away. Here’s a few of her tips for making that happen:

Seth Godin’s Advice on Nit-Pickers: Pastors and Leaders Need to Read This

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My friend Seth Godin wasn’t writing this for pastors, but when I read it, I realized pastors were exactly the right audience for this piece. Read it through and let me know if you agree. And perhaps more important – if you’ve ever experienced one or more of these types of folks in your church or ministry:

How To Turn The Tables On Your Critics

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If you’re a leader in politics, ministry, business, or in the media here’s something important you need to know: In today’s digital culture, you can’t hide anymore. In the old days, politicians could hide a mistress, TV evangelists could hide their jets or mansions, and anyone could hide a DUI conviction, an old arrest, and more. But today, the river of information that flows into Google is just too vast. That’s why I strongly recommend that if you’re in the public eye, you need to

Great Art Doesn’t Tell – It Shows

The following are the remarks by Wall Street Journal drama critic and columnist Terry Teachout when he received the Bradley Prize in Washington, D.C..  When I read them, I immediately thought of writers, filmmakers, musicians, and artists who are driven by their faith.  All of us need to be reminded of what Terry says is the key to creating great art: 

When (If Ever) Is It OK To Criticize Other Christians?

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I’m not sure if this puts my salvation in doubt, but here’s a link that’s absolutely must see.  It’s a compilation someone posted on the “5 Worst Christian Videos on the Internet.”  Now these are truly award worthy. I’ve seen some terrible things – and you could probably add a few more – but these are really bad. So while we hate to criticize other believers, the question becomes –

Are Negative Comments Online Damaging Creativity?

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Blogs have comment sections. Facebook has comments. People can respond to anything you say on Twitter. Social media is not just about being “social,” it’s about getting a response. The problem is, many of us debut creative ideas online. We try out the subject of a new book, or present a concept for an ad campaign or movie idea. In similar cases, leaders toss out new ideas to see what people think. But sometimes,

Let’s Stop Blaming God for Our Failures

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Maybe it’s because I’ve spent so much of my career working in advertising and marketing, but after a Christian event where nobody shows up, when I hear the phrase, “Well, the people that needed to be here were here,” it sure seems to me like an excuse. We hear it all the time when only a handful of people show up to an event: “Well, only 6 people came, but I believe those were the people God wanted here.” Really? I don’t want to sound harsh and ungodly here, but

Rejection’s only Temporary

Look at these Rejection Notices from now famous books:

Animal Farm – George Orwell
It’s impossible to sell animal stories in the USA.

The Diary of Anne Frank
The girl doesn’t, it seems to me, have a special perception or feeling which would lift that book above the mere “curiosity” level.

Plenty of great projects were rejected first – some were

What If Christianity’s Critics Got Serious?

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I’m not one to jump on the “Christianity is under attack” bandwagon. However, there’s no question that Christianity is the target of far more legal action in this country that any other religion and people are far more sensitive to mentioning “Jesus” than Buddha, Mohammed, or other religious figures. (Which is a significant reason in my thinking that there’s actually something to this Christianity business). But in looking through the media recently and noticing that the voices against Christianity seem to be growing – and getting more hostile – I spent part of the holidays wondering what would happen if the pendulum swung just enough to shift the majority’s thinking? What if the majority decided that Christians are the problem in this country and we need to do something about it?