Start Identifying the “No” People in Your Life

There are a lot of gatekeepers in life (many self-proclaimed) who’s job it is to tell you a big fat “no.”  Small minded managers, insecure bosses, human resources people, and even narrow-minded family members.  Most “no” people have taken the job because they don’t know how to inspire or motivate people – so they figure they might as well be good at something – and saying no is pretty easy to do.  The challenge for you is to know which “no” people to listen to and which ones to ignore.  I got a speeding ticket the other day and decided the cop was a “no” person I should probably listen to.  However, a former business associate who was always full of reasons we couldn’t land a client, or the friend who told me why I shouldn’t waste my time writing books, or the college professors who liked tenure more than risking it all for a great cause – are all people I’ve chosen to ignore.

Learn priorities –  what’s important to you and what isn’t.  Once you’ve got that figured out, you’ll be surprised how easy it is to say “no” to no people.

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  • Jody

    Very good and valuable observations.

    As a friend and very successful colleague in the entertainment business told me a long time ago, “Being told ‘No” only means that you’re not talking to the right person.”

  • Cwaldie

    OK Phil, how? How to you tell who’s no to listen to? What if I spend my life trying to break into show-biz and I should have been a carpenter?